Category: Advice

Dear Token

I’m concerned that you are playing a losing game in which you trade your dignity for a few crumbs of approval. The game dictates that you trade parts of yourself, your identity, and your culture for a set of fringe benefits. The problem is that these benefits (such as access to networks and opportunities) require you to continue to give these parts of yourself away until you are molded into the image of the Model Negro.

This is Privilege

I saw an image recently that said, “Privilege is when you think something is not a problem because you aren’t […]

Schools: Stop doing “Crazy Hair Day”

As we enter homecoming/spirit day season, I want to make you all aware of something that I didn’t know was […]

No, discourse isn’t dead. You’re not saying anything worth listening to.

It’s easy to have “well-reasoned” discourse when it isn’t your humanity, dignity, or well-being that is being treated like an intellectual exercise.

What a cabinet taught me about self-care

What the chaos of renovating my home taught me about caring for myself.

Potty Training: One Family’s Saga

Potty training: One Family’s Saga Here is The Armchair Family’s potty training story. Through laughter and tears we were able […]

Eight tips for surviving the Holidays with your racially insensitive family

Before I begin, I have to say a couple of things by way of disclaimer/explanation:  First of all, as many […]

What no one will tell you about bitterness…

Being bitter feels good.  Instead of doing the whole click-baity thing where I make you read the entire post word […]

These 10 Rape Prevention tips are EVERYTHING! 

I saw this image on Facebook and it gave me so much life:     One day, I hope to live […]