I’m concerned that you are playing a losing game in which you trade your dignity for a few crumbs of approval. The game dictates that you trade parts of yourself, your identity, and your culture for a set of fringe benefits. The problem is that these benefits (such as access to networks and opportunities) require you to continue to give these parts of yourself away until you are molded into the image of the Model Negro.
This is Privilege
I saw an image recently that said, “Privilege is when you think something is not a problem because you aren’t affected personally.” This is 100% true. The image inspired me to think more about what privilege is. This is privilege... Privilege is when you think that you can dictate to marginalized people what they should… Continue reading This is Privilege
Schools: Stop doing “Crazy Hair Day”
As we enter homecoming/spirit day season, I want to make you all aware of something that I didn't know was happening until a friend told me (we didn't have this particular day when I was in school): When "Crazy hair day" (or any other day that would behoove one to wear costumed hair) comes along… Continue reading Schools: Stop doing “Crazy Hair Day”
No, discourse isn’t dead. You’re not saying anything worth listening to.
It’s easy to have “well-reasoned” discourse when it isn’t your humanity, dignity, or well-being that is being treated like an intellectual exercise.
The White Man’s Religion: How white Christians can pursue racial reconciliation
I would like for my white Christian friends to consider something: Slavery and segregation are stumbling blocks to African Americans receiving the gospel. You may be shouting to yourself, "But slavery was a long time ago! Segregation was a long time ago! I had nothing to do with either! Why don't they just get over… Continue reading The White Man’s Religion: How white Christians can pursue racial reconciliation
Self-care for people of color during these racially tumultuous times
How to take care of yourself in the fight against injustice.
What a cabinet taught me about self-care
What the chaos of renovating my home taught me about caring for myself.
Eight tips for surviving the Holidays with your racially insensitive family
Before I begin, I have to say a couple of things by way of disclaimer/explanation: First of all, as many of my followers likely know, I'm black and my husband's side of the family is white. I've been part of his family for 14 years at the time of this writing. I've spent the past… Continue reading Eight tips for surviving the Holidays with your racially insensitive family
These 10 Rape Prevention tips are EVERYTHING!
I saw this image on Facebook and it gave me so much life: One day, I hope to live in a world where instead of telling people (Read: women and sexual minorities) what to do to protect themselves from being raped, we teach people not to rape and make the sanctions for rape so horrible that… Continue reading These 10 Rape Prevention tips are EVERYTHING!
How to be a sucky individual
How to be a sucky individual You want to the the center of the universe. Other people's feelings don't matter, even if you pretend that they do. You pretend give zero bothers about what people think of you, but you actually take a lot to heart. You don't care about common courtesy. You have disregard… Continue reading How to be a sucky individual